The Trouble with Achieving Goals

By Myriam Callegarin • January 14th, 2010

What is the biggest trouble about achieving a goal?

That it requires an effort. The thing is, sometimes the idea of the effort feels much tougher than the actual effort. And for some odd reason, we tend to choose the more complicated paths.

So we struggle, and achieving goals becomes a matter of will-power and even of pride, and when we realize that our will-power is not strong enough, we feel like a failure and become frustrated.

What if it were much easier?

Imagine a scale

scale On one plate is your Goal, what you want.

On the other plate is all the rest: All the things you are afraid of losing if you achieve your goal.

Here’s a simple example: If you live in Paris but want to move to New York, you must leave your present home, your friends, your current occupation and all the things that have become a habit for you.

As long as your attachment to your home, your friends, your current occupation in Paris is stronger than your desire to move to New York, your actions will be “half-hearted”, and you will find several ways to sabotage yourself, consciously and unconsciously.

Think about something you have wanted to achieve in the past months or years. What thoughts have actually kept you from achieving it?

So how do you achieve your goal?

Two steps to achieve your goal

Step 1: Increase the weight on your “Goal Plate”.

How do you do this? First, by creating a stronger vision about what you want, making it more and more real for you, so you can see it, feel it, even taste it.

Second, by reinforcing the reasons why it would be good for you to achieve it. You convince yourself!

Step 2: Decrease the weight on the “Roadblocks Plate”

How do you do this? First, you identify what your doubts and fears and other roadblocks are.

Second, you look at them from different perspectives, and discard them one by one. Thus you take off the weight from the “Roadblocks Plate”.

Again, you convince yourself.

Important Truth:

The key to convincing others is being convinced about it yourself, first.

Thanks to this process you may realize that what you say you want is actually not important to you. Or that only one aspect of it is important.

And, you may discover that one or more of your “perceived roadblocks” could actually help you achieve your goal!

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Then try the Goal Catcher!

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No matter whether you simply want to find out what you really want, start your own business, find a more fulfilling job, or achieve a better work-life balance…